Now that my friends is the real question. I just read this article in BUST magazine about a study that was recently done. The researches found that 71% of Americans think women should take their spouses name after marriage. Half of the respondents said the act should be a legal requirement......
A legal requirement is obserd, truly antiquated. In today's world the majority of these women getting married are successful business women who have professional reputations at stake. It is hard enough climbing the corporate ladder as a woman and trying to get recognized, to then go ahead and change ones name midway up.....might as well start at the bottom of that ladder ladies!
I am a married woman, I am also a very successful business woman prior to marriage. My solution was, partly inspired by my female boss, and finding the balance between my personal and professional lives. I love my name, my middle name and my last name, but I do love my husband. I know it is hard for men or at least it takes a special man to share the pants in the house. So to keep my professional reputation I kept my last name for business purposes. Legally and personally I changed my last name to my middle name and took his last name as my legal last name. I was able to retain my identity as a professional woman yet still make my husband feel loved. He would have accepted my choice either way, but I think this was an extra special treat for him. When ever I initial anything I use all initials…AMBJ Oh and for the record I refused to change my personal email address I still have my old last name in my email address…
I always thought about hyphenating. It's like, a compromise. But I suppose it has to flow together.
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